Being a single mom is a full-time job, but when your kids hit their teenage years, the game changes completely. Suddenly, they’re more independent, spending time with their friends, and trying to figure out who they are. But while they’re off discovering their social scene, you might realize,… where did my social life go?
Let’s face it—making friends as a mom is already tricky, but when you have teens, it’s a whole different ball game. You’re no longer meeting parents at toddler play dates or through school functions, and your schedule is probably packed with work, keeping up with teenage drama, and trying to squeeze in some “me time.” But here’s the thing—just because your kids are older doesn’t mean giving up on having a social life.
So, where do you even start? Let’s dive into some real, relatable tips on how to make friends as a single mom when you’re in the thick of raising teenagers.
1. Leverage Your Teen’s Social Circle (Without Being Overbearing)
Just because your teens are old enough to have friends doesn’t mean you can’t make connections with the other moms. Your kid’s friends likely have parents who are just as busy and need adult conversation as you. Whether it’s at school events, sports games, or even the dreaded car line, these are prime opportunities to connect with other moms.
But, and this is key—don’t be “that” mom. You know, the one who tries too hard to be part of their kid’s friend group. Instead, look for natural moments to strike up a conversation with the other parents. Chances are, they’re also hoping for someone to share their “teen life” war stories with.
**Pro Tip: Use Your Kid’s Activities as a Springboard
Is your teen in a sport, club, or band? Use their activities as a way to meet other parents. A casual “How’s your kid liking basketball this season?” or “I’m new to all this, how do you survive band camp?” can open the door to some easy-going friendships.
2. Tap Into Community Groups and Volunteering
Teenagers are starting to do their own thing, which might free up a little bit of your time (finally!). Use this to your advantage by getting involved in community activities, volunteering, or even joining local clubs. Whether it’s a charity event, a book club, or a fitness group, community groups are a great way to meet other moms who are also figuring out this whole raising teenagers thing.
**Pro Tip: Go for Groups That Align with Your Interests
Find something that interests you. Whether it’s a group for moms with teens, a fitness club, or even a local event, you’re bound to meet like-minded people—and that makes forming friendships feel more natural. Plus, you’re doing something for yourself, which is always a win.
3. Reconnect with Old Friends—Mom Edition
If you’ve lost touch with friends because of life (you know, kids, work, trying to stay sane), now might be the perfect time to reconnect. Chances are, many of your old friends are also parents of teens now, and they’re dealing with the same struggles. A quick text or call to an old friend can easily lead to grabbing coffee, venting about teenage drama, and rediscovering your friendship.
**Pro Tip: Be Honest and Vulnerable
If it’s been a while since you last spoke, don’t be afraid to send a text like, “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you! How’s life with teenagers? I could use some tips!” It’s relatable, funny, and opens the door for an honest conversation about parenting.
4. Join Online Communities for Single Moms of Teens
Sometimes, the easiest way to meet people is online. There are tons of Facebook groups, online forums, and a Bold Boss Mom community where single moms with teens come together to share advice, vent, and support each other. It’s a great way to connect with other moms who get what you’re going through—especially if you’re struggling to meet people IRL.
And who knows? You might even find some local moms in these online communities and take the friendship offline!
Pro Tip: Be Active
Just joining a group isn’t enough. Participate in the conversations, share your experiences, and comment on other people’s posts. Before you know it, you’ll start to form connections and maybe even find a local friend to meet up with in person.
5. Don’t Be Afraid to Make the First Move
Making friends as an adult is basically like dating—sometimes, you’ve got to make the first move. See another mom at a school event or a soccer game who looks friendly? Say hi! It might feel awkward at first, but more often than not, the other person is just as eager for adult conversation. You don’t need to overthink it—a simple “Hey, how’s it going?” can open the door to a new friendship.
**Pro Tip: Keep It Light and Casual
You don’t have to over-plan a friendship. Suggest a casual coffee or a park hangout while your teens are off doing their own thing. Keep it low-pressure, and if it clicks, great—if not, no harm done!
6. Remember: Friendships Take Time
Let’s be honest—making friends as a single mom with teenagers isn’t going to happen overnight. It takes time to build meaningful relationships, especially when everyone is so busy juggling their lives. But the key is to stay open, be patient, and take advantage of those little opportunities when they come your way. Whether it’s chatting with another mom in the school parking lot or bonding over your kid’s soccer game, small steps can lead to strong friendships.
7. Make Time for You
While parenting and trying to be everything for your teenager, it’s easy to forget about yourself. But finding friends (and keeping them) requires a little bit of “me time.” Whether it’s a once-a-month book club, a fitness class, or a Saturday morning coffee date, carving out time for yourself is not only healthy, but it’s essential for building friendships.
Pro Tip: Schedule It Like You Would Anything Else
Scheduling time for friends isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. When you prioritize those connections, you’re also taking care of your well-being.
At the End of the Day, You’ve Got This
Finding friends as a single mom with teenagers can feel overwhelming, but it’s doable. Just like your teens are navigating their own social lives, you’re allowed to do the same. Be open, be patient, and don’t be afraid to embrace the awkward moments—it’s all part of the process.
You deserve a social life too, mama, and the friendships you build now might just be the ones that carry you through the crazy (and amazing) teenage years.
What are some of your tips when trying to make new mom friends?
